Author(s): Catherine Gray
Having a secret single freak-out? Feeling the red, heart-shaped urgency intensify as the years roll on by?
You're in the right place.
Over half of 25-44 year olds are now single. It's become the norm to remain solo until much later in life, given the average marriage ages of 35 (women) and 38 (men). Many of us are choosing never to marry at all.
But society, films, song lyrics and our parents are adamant that a happy ending has to be couple-shaped. That we're incomplete without an 'other half'*, like a bisected panto pony.
Cue: single sorrow. Dating like it's a job. Spending half our lives waiting for somebody-we-fancy to text us back. Feeling haunted by the terms 'spinster' or 'confirmed bachelor.'
Catherine Gray went through all of this. She took a whole year off dating to find single satisfaction. She lifted the lid on the reasons behind the global single revolution, explored the bizarre ways cultures single-shame, detached from 'all the good ones are gone!' panic and debunked the myth that married people are much happier.
In this groundbreaking book, neuroscientists reveal why a break-up feels like drug withdrawal, we discover why we gravitate towards indifferent suitors more than the keen, and psychiatrists delve into how we repeat childhood patterns.
Let's locate - and luxuriate in - some single joy. Are you in?
*Spoiler: you're already whole.
Praise for The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober:
'Fascinating' - Bryony Gordon
'Truthful, modern and real' - Stylist
'Brave, witty and brilliantly written' - Marie Claire
'Not remotely preachy' - The Times
'Jaunty, shrewd and convincing' - Sunday Telegraph
'Admirably honest, light, bubbly and remarkably rarely annoying' - Alice O'Keeffe, Guardian